Monday, 6 August 2012

Introduction to the SayNo2Stalking Blog

Hello, my name is Andie Steele-Smith

Thanks for stopping by the SayNo2StalkingBlog. I am the principal author of this blog - although a variety of legal, physical security, intelligence, technical security, psychological and stalking experts have contributed in a number of ways.

After my family, friends, staff and I endured - and survived - a concerted 3+ year campaign of stalking, cyberstalking and harassment at the hands of a disgruntled former staff member; I decided to publish this blog and its accompanying website

This site is not so much my story, as a summary of some of the things that I have learned throughout this experience. I hope that some of these learnings may help you too. If I help even one other victim - survive and in turn thrive - after escaping the relentless clutches of their stalker, this exercise will have been worthwhile.

Being the target of a self-professed psychopathic stalker from 2008 until 2012 has without a shadow of a doubt been the most challenging, terrifying and bizarre experience of my life to-date.

When I was in my 20's the movie Fatal Attraction seemed bizarre beyond belief. What I now know is that the relentless and obsessive pursuit encapsulated in this movie is an all-too-familiar phenomenon - ie that of the obsessed stalker relentlessly pursuing their prey.

As you will know if you have experienced - whether first or second hand - the impact of a sustained campaign of stalking (or cyberstalking), the emotions, trauma, impact and powerlessness that this movie encapsulated, become all-too-real for the victims of stalking and their family and friends.

I never dreamed in my worst nightmare that I could become the target of a revenge stalker.

Let alone I could not have imagined that my stalker would pursue my family and me with such relentless obsession.

Nevertheless despite some hefty scars and pain, I have survived - as God willing you will too.

If you are the victim of stalking or cyberstalking, like me you will likely feel like your life has become an endless streaming horror movie - you know the kind where the evil villain keeps getting killed - and then reappearing yet again.....

Trying to rid your life of an unrequited and totally wanted - [yet for the stalker, deeply intimate relationship] - is an enormous challenge. However you are not alone.

There are fellow survivor, counsellors, criminal justice system members, legal advocates, charities and other professionals whom you can turn to.

I hope that you find this site a useful resource.

Please do let me know if I can be of further assistance either by commenting below or better yet by making direct contact via the contact page on my website

Remember - stalking is a crime - so whatever you do, don't sit back and do nothing......

Best regards

Andie Steele-Smith

1 comment:

  1. I want to send you a audio of a court case in Maryland, when I receive it, of a court case in Maryland involving a woman who was cyber stalked (continuing) for 3 years and took it to court for a peace order and was denied. I hope you will post it. Please contact me at